I know, this is a day late. I’ve been playing in my new house! It really is like playing house. Andrew and I take numerous trips to the hardware store, we discuss furniture, pictures, beds, it’s like starting over – but after 29 years of marriage, all the decisions are accomplished much faster! I attribute the fast decisions not to years of compromise, because that word connotes a situation where everyone loses. We actually developed a better system where we consider what is really important to us, and what is not.
Here’s an example. One one wall of the new dining room is filled with deep shelves covered by wood colored doors. Very, very ugly. The doors will be painted, courtesy of my brother in law. While we were at it, I wanted to change out the door pulls. That was my plan. During our excursions to the hardware store, I shopped for attractive, alternative door pulls. I was focused on door pulls, mostly because that’s more manageable than focusing on the reality of owning two homes.
Just as we left Monday morning for our three hours drive back to our Sonoma County house, my husband reviewed the door pulls and hinges and announced that he didn’t think they were all that unattractive and why don’t we just keep them?
My reaction was, “but I wanted everything to be new and these are ugly and I spent two weekends looking for new pulls.” But in light of both his suggestion and the dark reality that I hadn’t really found better door pulls, door pulls I felt STRONGLY about, life-changing door pulls, I took another look at the existing pulls and realized that if I really considered it, I was pretty neutral about door pulls. I wasn’t passionate about them, and he was passionate about not spending money we didn’t have to spend.
So the door pulls stay. It’s not that in the dining room question Andrew gets what he wants and I don’t, it’s about who feels more strongly about the subject.
Which is why I get to paint that same dining area red.